Sexologist outlines five common marriage mistakes

A recent study in the journal Family Process found that improved communication and emotional safety are linked to greater relationship satisfaction. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., a board-certified sexologist, highlighted the importance of maintaining connection as couples grow together.

Nelson identified five common mistakes that can weaken a couple’s bond. One is assuming complete knowledge of a partner, which can diminish curiosity and attraction over time. She noted that preferences can change, and staying curious is key to preventing this.

Avoiding difficult conversations is another mistake, as it can lead to unresolved issues. Nelson advised couples to pay attention to what they are not discussing and to address topics that cause discomfort, such as money or sex, to foster better communication.

Focusing on what is wrong with a sex life rather than what is working can create conflict and reduce intimacy. Nelson recommended sharing positive experiences and expressing appreciation to enhance connection and avoid defensiveness.

Allowing daily responsibilities to dominate a relationship can lead to 'maintenance mode' rather than 'expansion mode.' Nelson encouraged couples to balance routine tasks with new experiences to keep the relationship exciting and meaningful.

Finally, keeping feelings of connection private can prevent emotional closeness. Nelson urged couples to share positive emotions and physical sensations they feel when thinking about their partner, as these moments can strengthen the relationship.